As you know, if you read the last entry, I have met someone during this experiment to find Mr. Right. I said it was 13 of the 26 ways I had listed. Truth be told it was actually #10 as I used three different references to on-line dating. Word to the wise, Zoosk is the only successful dating app I have come across.
Ben, that's his name, and I have been dating for almost three months and it is going very well. We have so much in common there is never a dearth of things to do or talk about. Conversely, there are enough differences in our tastes to keep things interesting.
He is teaching me about his culture (Filipino) and I am teaching him about mine (Southern and American). We have survived shopping for furniture for my new apartment and putting together a shelf with nary a scratch, physical or emotional, which is a very good sign. He's teaching me to be more patient to others while driving and I am teaching him how to batch cook for the week and to use American Southern idioms in casual conversation. I call him 'Baby' and he calls me 'Boo-Boo', although when I showed him my casual and dress closets, he called me "Imelda" as in Imelda Marcos, she of 3,000 pairs of shoes fame. He does appreciate my skill in finding great clothes on clearance sale and at thrift stores. His wardrobe has significantly picked up some style and color since we've been spending time together. Although he likes them on me, he doesn't want his own pairs of colored pants and I'm supportive of that. You can only have one peacock per relationship.
I have no real frame of reference for a successful relationship as I have only had one real relationship and it was toxic and ended in 1997. Everything is going well and I am happy. He's very quiet and somewhat introverted around others and refers to himself as "boring", but I find him intriguing and intelligent and we have the most interesting conversations about philosophy, theology, politics, the royal family, books, music. For someone 10 years younger and from another country, we have remarkably similar frames of reference for popular culture.
I'll keep you posted on everything as we move forward, but if anyone wants to use the 16 additional ways to Not Meet Mr. Right, comment below and I'll gladly share with you. Who knows, maybe you'll find your Mr. Right. I think I did.
